Things it took me thirty years to learn I like my hair length to be one inch below my jaw and no other way Doubt is my friend, fear isn't, and sometimes I'll never distinguish between the two I'm shy and I'm a performer and that's a common combination Love grows mostly by accident, and the effort doesn't feel like effort I'm not really addicted to sex, I'm addicted to intimacy You can't love anything you're addicted to I don't really access my feelings A lot of people don't really access their feelings Because it's too much to process in one sitting and it hurts I'm not even a little bit less in love with everyone I've loved I don't like Ayn Rand or Lars von trier I'm impatient because I'm afraid of imposing and I was raised to be polite about things that really don't matter A Harvard education means diddly squat I don't want to have children or be married, I'd like to live with someone without my conservative parents exploding I like listening to kids and helping them express through art I never worked through my childhood and I'm attracted to people who lost their childhood early I'm fascinated with the mechanisms children use to deal with complex trauma, I think it's magic I think works of passion are magic I'm so wrong about everything so often, and I love realizing I'm wrong Now I know it means I haven't hardened and I'm still capable of learning I hope I keep discovering I'm wrong for a long time |